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The Choices We Make Are Our Destiny

Updated on January 29, 2014

There isn't really a fitting category here so I made a decision and chose to put this here. So then you made a choice to either open it or not, read it or not and think about it or let it go. Makes no difference if you are a woman or a man the same rules apply because life is like that. We all are faced with choices which will become our destiny. Choice and destiny are intertwined and many people don't give it much thought.

When we're younger, and I'm not any more, there is a tendency to make choices based upon pleasure and self-gratification without regard to consequences. If one continues that pattern too far into their adult life the consequences of doing that can be devastating. That's usually when I have always heard the "woe is me" lament and the tendency of people to blame everyone for their undoing but themselves. Like someone else made the choices that brought you to that juncture. That may sometimes apply but is seldom the case.

Occasionally I meet "downer" people and have to get away from them before they, without really trying to, bring me down to that space where they reside. I'd rather not subject myself to it. That is my choice at that point. I prefer to stay on a friendlier, sunnier side of life myself.

The graphic above is what life is all about so stop to think as you analyze the choices that will directly influence which path you venture down. Sometimes it may be best to ask for a little divine guidance if you have that inclination. Once we make our choices they then begin to make us. Just think about how many choices you have to make on a daily basis from the time you wake up until the time you go to sleep again. Those are the sometimes the simplest of tasks but still your choices. They will have an effect on the course of your day.

Lets dive for the deeper pearl now. You are asked by someone to go somewhere and you're torn whether to venture out or stay at home. How many times have you gone with your gut? If your intuition (I call that my gut) says to go do you usually pay attention? I'm also a reason, a season or a lifetime person so I understand that by stepping on out there I might actually meet someone of substance. If I don't go, it can be seen as a lost opportunity. The flip side is something can happen that requires you to make a choice that will change the course of events in your life. If you believe in destiny, or fate for that matter, then you understand the concept I am relating to you.

Listen to your gut more often if you haven't been. That inner being you have inside you needs to be listened to closely as you grow. I have learned to channel my listening more and more to that inner voice as I make choices. The best way I can put is that, in most cases, you make sounder decisions and choices when you are listening to that inner being called you.

The simplest definition of a "choice" is having to make a decision about something now or in the future. Some can help and others can hinder. Try to get a sense of how you feel after you make a choice. Is it weighing on you heavily? Might not have been the right thing at the right time. But it's that feeling of exhilaration that sets in upon your soul when you know in yourself that you have made the right choice for you that you are striving for. It has to be for you unless you are leading someone else's life for them. How many times in my life I have had to make choices that made other people unhappy I have lost count of. But making someone else happy isn't my responsibility nor my job. That belongs to them and mine belongs to me.

Notice the woman in the graphic above? It's best not to adopt that frame of mind. Choices made in haste often lay us to waste. Most sound choices take some thought and need to be with the confidence that you can live with the result. Oft times the result will become your life and destiny. Yes, often your choices will impact on those around you. Those heavier things in life are centered around love and happiness, right and wrong and your own mental heath and state of being. Choose wisely and not in haste.

I am a risk taker. Life is all about risk in my opinion. Without risk there can be no real, satisfying reward. Living your life and following your dreams involves a certain amount of risk. Are you up to it? Or are you one of those who are risk averse? When relationships disintegrate, as they sometimes do, I suggest to you that you pick your dusty little butt up, dust it off and start making the next choice, only make a better one the next time around. Probably tthe only thing you have to fear is fear itself and not reaching your own self-actualization.

Ask yourself if you are worth it? Are you worth knowing? Are you worth loving? Surely you can choose what, who and where you care to be in life. Once that is decided then it is time, sometimes past time, to go for it.

I ask that you share this using the various means with your followers. friends and those you love. It just might bring a needed change in how things are seen and dealt with.

As Always,

The Frog Prince

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